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As a mom of five young kids, I find myself perpetually busy. I often hear, "how on earth do you do it all?" Well, let me fill you in on a little secret: I don't! I have learned instead how to find the good among the chaos, making it more manageable. I'm still learning. I hope this space can help you do the same. Because life may be crazy, darling, but that is where the beauty lies.

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Oftentimes women put themselves at the end of thei

Oftentimes women put themselves at the end of their to-do lists—or don't even put themselves on the list at all! This is scary when you think about health care to-do lists.

Studies found that most women ranked their time spent managing health care in the following order:

1. Children
2. Pets
3. Elder relatives
4. Spouse or significant others
5. Themselves

I put myself as priority #1 today and went to the optometrist to update my prescription. (Hello crazy dilated eyes!) Turns out that my eyes have changed so much that I jumped 5 whole lines in the eye exam. No wonder I’ve been struggling with blurred vision and headaches!

Do you struggle making your health a priority? What if there was a way for you to easily manage not only your family’s needs, but yours as well? Are you ready to make yourself a priority?

Do you ever feel like the grief you carry isn’t

Do you ever feel like the grief you carry isn’t legitimate? That it’s too small or too old or you’re too blessed?

I’ve felt that.

Ten years ago today I experienced my second miscarriage. The first time it happened so early I didn’t even realize what was happening until a nurse at my university clinic told me. This time we thought we were far enough along it was “safe” to tell our families. I was so devastated I asked my sister to tell everyone for me because I couldn’t bear saying the words another time. Yet, I didn’t feel like it was right for me to grieve for long because I had a healthy seven month old baby to love and the pregnancy had been a surprise. I thought I was wrong to feel so sad when I had friends who hadn’t been able to get pregnant at all. I didn’t believe I was allowed true grief. But the hole in my heart remained.

Over the years the pain of loss dulled and the thoughts of what could have been became less frequent. Yet the guilt of grief was still there when they came. Who was I, mom to five beautifully rambunctious girls, to mourn such early losses from so long ago?

I’ve come to realize that grief isn’t bound by size or time or blessings. We don’t recover from grief, we grow in it. Grief provides perspective on our immense capacity for finding strength and becomes part of how we share our humanity.

So if you’ve ever felt like the grief you carry isn’t legitimate, I’m here to tell you it is and you are allowed to feel it.

. Repeat after me: "I 𝙖𝙢 𝙣𝙤𝙩 resp

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Repeat after me:

"I 𝙖𝙢 𝙣𝙤𝙩 responsible for how others respond to my boundaries. I 𝙖𝙢 responsible for setting and honoring my boundaries."

✨ Are you ready to build greater self-esteem?

✨ Are you ready to clarify who you are, what you want, what you value and believe?

✨ Are you ready to focus on yourself and your well-being?

✨ Are you ready to enhance your mental health and emotional well-being?

✨ Are you ready to develop independence?

✨ Are you ready to gain a greater sense of identity?

It can be tricky navigating how to identify, set, and enforce boundaries, but you don't have to do it alone. If you are ready to see boundaries work their magic in your life and don't know where to start, I have the guidance you need. In just a few weeks I'll be launching my flagship course, The Boundary Breakdown, where I'll walk you through the five steps to becoming a boundaried person, guilt-free.

Are you ready?

I’m an enneagram type 6, which basically means I

I’m an enneagram type 6, which basically means I’m a natural worrier. If you look it up, often the first thing noted about type sixes is we “anticipate life’s dangers.”

When I walk into a building I note where exits are.

When I’m driving, I’m hyper-vigilant about what other drivers around me are doing, anticipating mistakes they might make.

When I’m planning any event I think about all the things that can go wrong, what I’ll do to minimize the likelihood of it happening, and how I’ll respond if it does.

For me, thinking of the worst calms me because I know I’m prepared should it happen. I handle chaotic situations extremely well because, more often than not, I’ve played through a similar scenario in my head already.

I’ve spent the last few days updating our “bug out bags” or 72-hour kits. It’s been on my to-do list for a while and knowing it’s finally done has brought me an immense amount of peace. Hopefully we won’t ever need them, but they’re ready in case we do.

I’m fascinated by enneagrams and what they can teach us about ourselves. I always felt like such a weirdo for thinking the way I do, until I read about the enneagram. Turns out I’m not alone! Though probably still weird. 😉

Tell me, what’s your enneagram number? How have you seen it manifest in your life?

This is pure pride and joy. After over a decade o

This is pure pride and joy.

After over a decade of changing majors three times, transferring five times, putting school on hold to raise babies and support my husband through medical school and residency, I just put in my application for graduation. I still have a few courses and an internship to complete, but there is an end in sight. It’s finally actually real.

Tell me, what’s something big you’ve always wanted to accomplish? What’s holding you back from getting it done?

School starts one month from today and this little

School starts one month from today and this little lady will be starting first grade. Here in Idaho kindergarten is only half day, so this will be her first time experiencing lunch at school. This made me super nervous because they only get about 15 minutes to eat. A challenge for most kids, but especially for this girly with ADHD who often takes an hour (or longer) to actually eat her food.

To quell my worries we started practicing today. I made her lunch just as I would on a regular school day. She got to grab her lunchbox, unzip, unbuckle, open packages, eat, and clean up all on her own. I also let her know I set a 15-minute timer and once it went off all food was to be put away, wether she was done or not. I thought this first day would be a struggle, since most days are, but she surprised me by doing everything on her own AND finishing all her food in ten minutes. 🤯

We’ll keep practicing to make sure the time limit really sinks in, but today reminded me that people are often more capable than we give them credit for. This is true for adults, kids, and even ourselves. When we understand the task at hand, what is being asked of us, it’s easier to rise to the occasion. We might surprise ourselves and nail it the first time or it might take a few tries to really get it down, but we can accomplish anything we set our mind to.

Today we celebrate the best decision you've ever m

Today we celebrate the best decision you've ever made. 😉

Happy 12 years (tomorrow), @bradleybeaufort! I sure do love you!

This sounds obvious, but it took me a really long

This sounds obvious, but it took me a really long time to start living my life for me and not for others. To make my happiness a priority.

I stopped constantly caring so much what others might think of me. That’s not to say it doesn’t still cross my mind at times, but when it does it no longer controls me.

I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea. That’s okay! I am far from perfect, but I love the person I am becoming and that is more than enough.

What would it take for you to feel that same freedom?

She did not stand alone, but what stood behind her

She did not stand alone, but what stood behind her, the most potent moral force in her life, was the love of her father.

- Harper Lee

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